; P$ Y9 e6 |+ g; ]Please try to understand my point of view. 6 n& X4 z9 n, _7 x/ ]请理解我的观点。5 a1 l" J$ Z) N V% \9 B
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- @$ ^* s& `% z: F! T- iWait, can I take that back?3 B0 ~+ v) Z& _2 P3 @9 k4 ]# D
等一下,我能收回我说的话吗? + |6 v2 F6 _8 k+ x2 e9 h$ x 9 m7 h5 e8 |0 ]4 X1 z! P$ \ , A1 W3 B' ?% @1 G- k, G2 I0 S! t% n F6 f; I9 k
You don’t have to solve this — it helps me just to talk to you. # Q+ Z; l, j) [我不用帮我解决这个问题。和你聊一下就对我有帮助。3 N/ a# x" W: W
4 k5 E7 b3 X' r9 O5 u# U# S 2 ?1 Q9 Y7 m6 c6 O) G ' Q6 }& |! p; t& SThis is important to me. Please listen.4 u# J+ I" O$ y0 a" ^1 V
这对我很重要。请仔细听。7 C# g2 X3 D C
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% M; @1 Y9 T2 HI overreacted.( C; }" ?0 F! Q9 ~( B, G4 `8 ~
我反应过激了。 / ^( y( J& D; N& U' {, H7 Z 7 ?$ H9 O- O4 t7 }3 c' U ' i; z3 _( n& k. Z+ B. H5 W" b& n4 x4 I& R6 @
I see you’re in a tough position.1 M, g/ A% q) g" s9 }' B8 a
我知道你的处境艰难。 ) K' M5 {, m1 b; T4 v: ^ ) z! v. Y3 Y9 O( B; }* b) L# F$ ~* F; U1 b$ l7 I& B
% Q& Q. i# D; i$ X9 UI can see my part in this. 3 |) A9 n/ N9 z p这个问题,我有错。 N" D% |! z" Q4 Z+ h7 H h 5 I# N0 u/ T9 B$ N7 V2 Z) [. ^ v, |& r
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I hadn’t thought of it that way before. 2 u& u) w ]8 B6 h我以前没有这样想。 / q$ r1 y6 I( C1 c: T6 E3 p' x$ Z3 N" A% a& h7 S4 [2 y
* \5 M7 G3 m9 z: r& ?: J ) c) b( \: p' _- v+ t UI could be wrong.9 ]3 z T7 u; c; l( ^% W8 b3 {+ C
我可能是错的。5 A* z5 W3 ?, U; k' g, ^( X: C0 q
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Let’s agree to disagree on that.7 C. L9 W9 }5 n+ c [
让我们接受我们的不同观点。 B" h5 a5 k' F" C' P
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# g! F; U* r9 BThis isn’t just your problem; it’s our problem. , Q2 k+ j6 B/ l- S这不只是你的问题。这是我们的问题。' [% M p0 E4 o3 ]6 t
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$ V' k$ D# ^9 Z+ n# z) [ 9 d2 @5 D' {! Q' vI’m feeling unappreciated.: \0 Y5 D1 p ^* l0 i
我感觉没有收到重视。 : A. g2 S- N6 r( ^8 A ' i# W- I) V5 D: Q: |/ E( y" V2 w) q . t k6 o% D% X5 h3 j/ C H' R 4 K2 }, X }6 J' V* a1 pWe’re getting off the subject.( m* Q9 Y! u! J g# v# r5 r( i
! y+ @. X. L4 j! f1 G / v' |+ c1 @6 r9 w: OI know I need to listen more. 1 C% l+ V0 w' v, x6 a1 M+ N) T6 x我知道,我应该多倾听。 ! @8 K" k) P) Q. e3 |( ?( z6 v: G6 M, h; t/ M1 m3 o
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! V& g' V6 k/ E% HYou’ve convinced me. 9 L# b! |( h: v# R2 Z% k 2 g4 r; h& d# T/ v5 m$ A- R6 ~2 U/ _0 e4 ]
Let’s take a break for a few minutes. ~2 D* G. B( U& O9 J/ s( ^
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让我们停一会。 ! u1 Z) l: Q8 {) j 4 K/ w$ ^3 n4 ~5 J% \: b[If you can remember to do this, it’s extremely effective—especially if you’re having a big fight. After a break, it’s almost impossible to go back to yelling.]. I7 J' k( y5 j% c8 H3 Q% A
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Please keep talking to me. . A* w% l% C7 B" C1 \2 s9 G O! J0 Z9 c
4 l5 T5 S; h2 y, d& MThat came out all wrong. , F; c9 C: T& E我表达错了。 V0 L9 L! h1 q5 F9 X0 ^, m
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' `9 G; m9 u, cI see how I contributed to the problem. - k( U7 b, x7 H: b( K+ A6 }2 o Y" k8 p( s8 E( ?7 y; L2 E
我明白我引起了这个问题。" F* }& O3 j7 U5 C* v! V" k6 M
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What are we really fighting about?- V: \% r* j: d& L( Q" B# Y( H
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4 A6 P* T; N O# q2 ^7 U4 HHow can I make things better? # |: \$ T- T* q V我怎样才能把事情变得更好呢? 7 A E, n3 n1 {$ H6 d/ Z& o 0 L3 d i0 ]9 m) }- q+ y( b: g4 p8 J+ G9 U
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We can solve this if we work together. - Y; f' X% w, `. r( j如果我们携手合作,我们就可以解决这个问题。 - y! b9 D" m4 o. ^) E8 ^# h) q7 r9 l% d, }7 {
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I’m sorry.0 U @0 G' q! `" \4 y. D$ @
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对不起。 3 @) Q3 t& l( {! [. s# C + s, p+ d6 Y1 Q% v0 d$ V# G- K) ], P1 f+ Y# G2 W
I love you. 9 R9 I: j L. h4 @/ ?我爱你。 6 `4 ^) B8 V8 M/ X: b( } * n% ]3 W. B. C! \8 f& r6 a; _, R- r% M& ^. i
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最后两句是最简单、最有力量的!